Practice Self-Compassion: Be Kind to Yourself ~9 of 12~
The emotional rollercoaster of divorce often brings feelings of failure, regret, and diminished self-worth. Judgmental inner voices may criticize your perceived shortcomings. Quieting these with self-compassion is necessary. Think of self-compassion as the gentle voice that kindly reassures you when you need it most. It acknowledges the challenges you face, though with love – not criticism.
Self-compassion means extending the same caring attitude towards yourself that you would show a dear friend struggling with divorce.Â
Talk to yourself with understanding and patience as you navigate this rocky terrain.Â
Forgive slip-ups or outbursts borne of grief.Â
Celebrate courageous moments of resilience along the winding path. Â
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You can foster self-compassion by:
– Writing encouraging notes to yourself when old negative self-talk patterns emerge
– Sipping tea slowly while reflecting on positive affirmations Â
– Journaling the lessons and insights gained thus far through the divorce
Divorce may test you. Meeting those tests with self-judgment only piles on unnecessary suffering. Anchoring in self-compassion helps you weather the storms to continue shining brightly until the sky clears again. You’ve got this!
