Military Spouses Face Unique Challenges – You Don’t Have to Navigate Them Alone
I’m Fränya. As a military wife myself, I understand what you’re going through in ways civilian friends simply can’t.
I Know What You’ve Given Up
Maybe you’ve sacrificed your career through constant moves every 2-3 years.
Maybe you’ve managed everything solo during deployments lasting weeks or months.
Maybe you’re among the 33% of military families who struggle to feel they belong in civilian communities.
Your future plans were built around his service, and now you’re wondering if there’s room for your dreams too.
What did you give up along the way?
Career opportunities that evaporated with each relocation.
Support systems left behind with every move.
The financial security that came with being part of a dual-income family.
The version of yourself you were before you became “the military spouse.”
I get it. I lived it.
The Reality No One Talks About
The loneliness is magnified when you’re far from family, isolated in unfamiliar communities, managing everything solo during those deployments. Your civilian friends try to understand, but they don’t really get what it’s like to essentially be a single parent for months at a time while maintaining the appearance that everything’s fine.
The statistics tell part of the story:
- 25% of military spouses report food insecurity and struggle with basic expenses
- 12.5% screen positive for major depression – nearly double the general population
- 16.7% experience generalized anxiety
- 44% have sought counseling during their partner’s active duty service
You’re not a statistic. You’re a woman trying to make an impossible decision while managing challenges that most people never face.
The Unique Question You’re Asking
Do I Stay or Do I Go?
For military spouses, this question comes with layers that civilian friends don’t understand:
What happens to the housing? The healthcare? The support structure you’ve built on base?
Will you have to move again just when you’re trying to rebuild?
How do you start over when your entire life has been structured around his career and the military lifestyle?
These aren’t just logistics – they’re real barriers that make an already difficult decision feel impossible.
My Story – From Military Wife to Starting Over
I was a military wife who learned to manage everything solo during frequent deployments – two to three weeks at a time. I moved, adapted, and held everything together while he served.
Then my marriage ended abruptly. He emptied our home and bank accounts while I was at work. Everything I’d built around his military career was gone in a single day.
I rebuilt from nothing. Worked three jobs. Slept on a friend’s couch. Started over in a way most civilians never have to contemplate.
The skills I developed as a military wife – adaptability, resilience, managing solo during uncertainty – became my greatest assets in rebuilding my life.
Now I help other military spouses navigate this decision and whatever comes next.
Not with generic divorce advice, but with real understanding of what you’re facing.
What Makes This Different
Unlike civilian divorce coaches, I understand:
- The complexity of military benefits and how they factor into your decision
- What it means to lose your entire support system with a PCS move
- The isolation of managing everything solo during deployments
- The career sacrifices that compound over years of relocations
- The unique financial challenges military families face
This isn’t therapy.
This isn’t someone telling you what you “should” do.
This is practical guidance from someone who’s lived your exact experience.
The Support You Need
My “Do I Stay or Do I Go?” Clarity Call helps military spouses:
Assess your situation with someone who understands military life complexities.
Identify what you truly need versus what military culture says you should want.
Explore options you might not have considered.
Create a concrete first step that works within your unique circumstances.
Whether you decide to stay and rebuild or create an exit strategy, you’ll have clarity and a path forward.
Call to Action
Ready to Stop Carrying This Alone?
Book your 30-minute clarity call for $85
This focused conversation gives you:
- A structured framework for your specific military spouse situation
- Guidance from someone who’s navigated military life and divorce
- One concrete action step you can take immediately
- Clarity on your real options, not just the ones everyone expects you to choose
Disclaimer
This program may be offered at the end of the call.
Feel free to get more information here:
3-Month Program: The Decision Path: From “Do I Stay or Do I Go” to Confident Choice
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: Do I need to be separated to work with you?
A: No. I work with women at every stage – questioning, separating, divorced, and even those deciding to stay and rebuild.
Q: Will you tell me what to do?
A: Never. My job is to help you hear your own voice clearly and make the decision that’s right for YOU, not what military culture or anyone else expects.
Q: What if I decide to stay?
A: That’s a valid choice. If you decide to stay, I can help you figure out what needs to change to make your relationship work.
Q: Do you understand military benefits and logistics?
A: Yes. While I’m not a financial advisor or lawyer, I understand the unique considerations military spouses face and can point you toward the right resources.
Safety Note
If you’re in an unsafe relationship, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
Military OneSource also provides confidential support: 1-800-342-9647.
